Simple random acts of kindness

Fleur Dash • 5 October 2021

How can you make someone happy today?

Such a lovely thing happened to me the other day, and I'm still glowing from it. 

I was driving my van through my local village, my mind full of the day ahead, the jobs, the chores, wishing the traffic would hurry up and the rain would stop. Feeling slightly hassled, I stopped at a roundabout to let out a different van. Completely contrasting my frown, the driver’s face was all teeth and crinkly smiles, it was immediately contagious. It was like the sun had started to shine.

My face blooming, I continued up the hill. 

Our two vans met again, and we ended up queuing next to each other at the next set of traffic lights. 

He smiled again, opened his window, and indicated for me to do the same. Wondering what I was letting myself in for, (maybe the man was insane? Was my dress hanging out of the door, or my bumper hanging off?) I slowly opened the window... 

He beamed at me, smiled even wider and cheerfully exclaimed that a pink haired lady driving a big black van had made his day! He declared that he wished me a happy life, full of flowers (my van has more than a few hanging from the mirror). He announced that we should grab every happy connection we can in our daily lives, blew me a kiss, and was on his way. 

This simple random exchange made me feel special, interesting, unique and valid. 

It was a wonderful example of how when we are full of positivity, we can share and spread love with ease, just by reaching out to the nearest person. 

We all are guilty of living our lives in our own closed off bubbles. We forget to look, notice and comment. Learning to be open to our environment, see what's around us means that our world’s become bigger, fuller, greater.

Connecting, communicating and complimenting is so easy to do. 

See someone and say something nice.

Everyone feels lovely.

Looking for opportunities to connect with others means that we always have a positive intention in the forefront of our minds. Serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin are encouraged to race through our brains making us feel wonderful and happy. Searching for ways to do simple acts of kindness creates a happy mindset, and the more we do it, the easier and more natural it becomes.

Give it a go!! What have you got to lose?

Fleur

xxx

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