What is Anxiety and how can we make it go away?

Fleur Dash • 11 December 2019

Managing and Conquering Anxiety

Anxiety is nature's way of protecting us from danger, and is an automatic response formed in our primitive part of the brain. We have evolved from being primitive humans who were constantly under attack from wild animals and other tribes man, and part of our brain still responds to the world as if we are still in constant danger. 

This part of the brain doesn’t understand the difference from imaginary and reality, which is how we get a thrill from watching scary films. If this primitive part of the brain feels we are in danger or under threat, it will always respond with anxiety, anger or depression to protect us. 

Anxiety is a way of us being super aware of the potential dangers around us, and keeping us ready to run at any moment. Anxiety can cause physical reactions such as increased heart beat, churning tummy, sweaty palms because we are producing chemicals which will enable us to move quickly. In extreme cases of anxiety, we can have issues with sleep, indigestion, IBS, headaches, panic attacks and heart pain. 

Our primitive brain has to think in the worst case scenarios to protect us, but this will make us feel very negative and down. Every negative thought we have is stored in our stress bucket. These can overflow if we allow them to build up over time, keeping us feeling in a vicious circle of anxiety and depression.

We can use this knowledge to change our thought patterns and think about the positives in our lives instead. Doing this using a gentle trance state will create new neural pathways in our brains, easing us back into the problem solving part of our brain where we can regain control of our emotions and reactions.

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